Wednesday, 29 November 2017

Mix It Up a Notch: Floral Button-Down

Although originally it belongs to my sister, I've worn this shirt more times than she has—probably in her whole life. It looks very retro, although I think she actually bought it from a local retail store. I myself don't own a lot of floral items—maybe one top or two—but I really love the pattern on this one, which feels rather 70s. The cut of the shirt, with the long sleeves complete with actual cuffs, is really classic and absolutely adds a lot of class to an outfit. But the floral patterns bring a certain whimsy to it as well, allowing a bit of personality to peek out—not completely devoid of emotions and formal, you know. As you can see, I often wear it with skirts—but I think that's more because I prefer to dress up in skirts than pants—but I do wish to wear it with more pants or shorts or non-skirt bottoms. Maybe bell-bottoms or baggy pants would be nice. What do you think?

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Saturday, 25 November 2017

VIDEO: Siblings in Fiction

Usually, when I have a Youtube video up on my channel, there's a blog post to go along with it—and I was ready to write this one too—but I ended up getting caught up in the whirlwind of midterm exams, that I hardly had time to plan out the blog post to go with this video. That being said, I magically managed to film, edit, render and posted a video anyway—which is more than I expected of myself—even though it's uploaded later than I'd like. Just in case you've never known before, let me share this video here to let you know that I actually have a semi-active Youtube channel, where I generally talk about books monthly. This month I thought I'd look at my favourite books that put siblings on the epicentre of the story—there are seven! As a middle child of three, sibling relationships have always intrigued me. I think it's one of the most complex relationships a person can have with another. Please feel free to leave comments on what you think of the books and if you know any other books of the same topic!

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Monday, 20 November 2017

The Calm Before the Storm

The title of this post—which, by the way, works literally and figuratively—is more relevant in my life now than ever. These photos were taken a few minutes before really dark clouds rolled in and bestowed a downpour over my house. I barely managed to gather my things and get back home, before it started to drizzle. In the big picture, though, they were taken in the last several minutes I managed to spare before finishing my freelance job, getting down on some midterm assignments and preparing for a workshop on Sunday. Talk about some storm, eh? The artistic/illustrious part of my life currently piques my interest very much, more so than this little ol' blog—which leads me to post more stuff on my art instagram and tumblr. It might not seem at all apparent, since my social media appearance is quite sporadic anyway, and I still have blog posts ready on schedule. But I've been spending most of my time glued to my desk, drawing fanart—which is also why I rarely ever post stories anymore, well, at least not on my blog instagram.

Hand-me-down floral shirt // thrifted jacket + shorts + hat // Sis's purse // old loafers

To be honest, I haven't been feeling like posting much on this blog, especially outfits. I've been spending most of my time at home or on campus, wearing pretty much the same thing, and the idea of going out with friends scares me a little bit—mostly, from the financial aspect. Also, I barely ever have time to go someplace interesting and shoot lovely outfits anymore, like on this day. My original plan was to go to a museum for this outfit, but it just wasn't possible with the list of things I had to finish last week. Thankfully, I live in a gorgeous place that, with a little bit of perspective, would look so fresh on the blog. For the outfit, I was adamant on remixing this shirt once more, and thought it had never been paired with pants/shorts, so here is me having a go. Let's pretend I'm skinnier than I actually am—don't ask me about my workout routine, please. Well, I guess I'd better go back to studying for this exam that's up in a few hours :')

P.S: In case you're wondering, these were taken yet again with my makeshift tripod substitute, 'cause I still haven't got a tripod yet. I always find it easier and more comfortable to use than an actual tripod, though.

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Wednesday, 15 November 2017

Cinnamon Hot Toddy

Since it's rainy season out here and happens to be autumn in the northern hemisphere as well, I thought I'd do a simple warm beverage for your cozy needs. At home, I seem to have hoarded quite a number of lemons, so I thought it would be perfect to try and make a warm drink out of them, for a change. Unlike this recipe—which you can add lemons to—I'd like to make a Western-friendly drink this time, so my friends in other countries can easily recreate this drink to snuggle up to at home. When I was roaming the internet, looking for inspiration, I stumbled upon a recipe for Hot Toddy. Maybe some of you know of it, it's usually a warm beverage used to help soothe sore throat—which sometimes contain bourbon/whiskey. As I don't drink, this one will definitely be alcohol-free, although you may add any liquor of choice, if you like. If you're vegan, please scroll down to see how to substitute some of the ingredients. Coincidentally, my sister was down with a sore throat when I made this.

(original recipe via Tablespoon, makes two glasses)
  • 1/2 lemon, sliced
  • juice of 1/2 lemon
  • 500 ml water
  • 3 medium cinnamon sticks
  • 15-20 cloves
  • 2-3 tbsp. honey
  1. In a saucepan, boil the water, cinnamon and cloves together
  2. Meanwhile, place the lemon slices in 2 separate glasses and pour in the juice
  3. Once it's boiled, remove the saucepan from heat and pour the mixture into the glasses
  4. Add half the honey to each glass and stir well
  5. Drink while hot!
Tips: To get the most juice, make sure you get the lemon out of the fridge at least an hour prior. If you only have ground cinnamon and clove, probably use around 1-3 tea spoon each and stir well. I would recommend letting the cinnamon mixture simmer a bit on the stove before pouring, to really let the flavour ooze out. If I were better prepared, I'd add a bit of nutmeg and ginger perhaps. If you're vegan, you can substitute the honey with maple or caramel or fruit syrup—I was planning on using date syrup myself. I'm not sure if you can heat this up, but it's best to just drink it straight away, instead of storing it for a rainy day. Speaking of which, even if you don't have a sore throat, this is a perfect rainy day remedy. Lass es euch schmecken!

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Friday, 10 November 2017

25 Things I've Learnt in 25 Years

You may have seen lists like this floating around the web—usually in video form, which was my first choice too, actually. They're really up my alley, so I thought I'd put in my two cents as well. Okay, I realise that they're usually posted on or around someone's birthday—and, as you may notice, mine was at least two weeks ago—but I've been thinking a lot about this recently and itching to write it all down. I hope you don't mind. Usually, people mix the hard-hitting life lessons with something lighter, but me being me, I feel like they will all be rather...epiphany-driven. Also, they're written in chronological order, as far back as I can date, so the real heavy ones should be at the very end. Hope you'll like this list—and maybe share one or two you've learnt yourself!

1. When you have a thought/idea, always write it down

Idea or thought is always a fleeting thing; it goes as quickly and suddenly as it comes. Once it's gone, it is almost guaranteed to never come back. You can never rely on your memory alone to keep it, so write it down, because you may never know when it will be helpful to you—no matter how random or unimportant it may seem at the time. It's also a good way to remember how your mind used to work in the past, as it may help you reflect on yourself.

2. Beauty lies in knowing that it's not everything

The most beautiful people I've been fortunate enough to know in life stand out, because they know that their physical superiority doesn't define them. They often possess non-physical qualities that make them shine brighter than most, either their good nature or their intelligence or both. But what usually attracts people to them is their nonchalant attitude towards their appearance. I think that is the true secret to body positivity.

3. Memories are never accurate and should not be held accountable

Our memories are always fabricated by our minds. Depending on how we feel about a certain moment in time, it will leave a different impression on us. And exactly because of that, we should never rely on our memories to know exactly what we—or anyone else, for that matter—were going through at any given time. We may feel like the "good old days" were far better, but, after further consideration, they turn out not to be too great either. Also because of that, although we may experience the same thing as someone else, our memories and theirs may vary significantly.

4. Someone's perception of you says more about them than about you

This goes both ways: whether it's a perception to make them like you or to make them despise you. People only ever see what they want to see. They might even think you're someone that is completely different to who you really are—or who you believe to be—and it creates a certain impression on them. They might say they love you or hate you, without even knowing your true self. I think I learnt this in grade school, when boys started to say they had feelings for me because of characteristics that I don't believe I possess. Knowing this has helped me distinguish between the pretenders and the true friends too.

5. The opposite of love isn't hate, but indifference

They say there is a thin line between love and hate—and, you know what, I think they're right. Love and hate both require a certain degree of obsession, which allows the perpetrator of those feelings to keep their target in mind most of the time. They also both require a great effort to maintain. So, what's actually so opposite about them? They're actually one and the same thing, although with different objectives. But when one loses interest in someone else, when that obsession and drive to have that person in one's life has gone, that is indifference. That is when the other person ceases to matter and exist in one's world—and the target certainly won't feel loved.

6. It's healthy to feel our unhappy emotions too

There is no way, that everything in life will make you happy all the time. Even when nothing bad happens, your mind might decide to pull a trick on you and throw you into a bad mood. It happens. And when it does, it's necessary for us to embrace the bad feelings. Stew in your anger for a while, cry your eyes out for a bit, maybe even throw up if you're feeling sick. Let it all out, so you can let it go. Otherwise, you'll be holding on to all this negativity far longer than you should—which will most likely result in the deterioration of both mental and physical health.

7. You can't save someone from themselves

In life, you may stumble upon a fair number of people whose life you'd want to improve. They may be in trouble for being too kind. They may be too lazy and irresponsible to lead a fulfilling life. They may have confidence issues. But, unless they want to change themselves, there is literally nothing you can do. In turn, it also means that no one can solve your problems for you, except yourself. They can help, of course, but it all comes down to you in the end.

8. Love is a constant decision, not an act of reflex

Being a hopeless romantic since toddlerhood, I used to believe that if two people love each other, they needn't work hard in a relationship. It will all just flow naturally. Unfortunately, no matter what, relationship requires effort from both sides. Love isn't something that happens to you—infatuation perhaps, attraction maybe, but not long-term love. You have to constantly make a conscious decision to love someone for a relationship to work. And it may consist of various factors, aside from our sole emotions.

9. How you see yourself can change how the world sees you

When I first started going out with Firu, it was like magic. He showed me what he thought of me and it really nurtured my self-esteem. I started to believe everything positive about myself, as he said. Like magic, at that point, people started to notice my good qualities too and coming up to tell me about them. It's weird. The same goes for blogging. When I started promoting my blog on social media more often, people take notice and compliment the contents. When I started sounding like a professional on my emails, people treat me like a pro too. I think what you think of yourself comes off like a pheromone, and if it's positive, people will respond well to that.

10. Happy endings don't exist (and that's perfect!)

As a child who's been spoon-fed Disney cartoons, I've always thought life was going to pan out that way. Terrible things might happen in my life, but then I'll find my prince, we'll get married and live happily ever after—blegh, cliché, I know. But then, what happens after happy ever after? I think this could be what is wrong with society sometimes: thinking that marriage equals happy ending. And so everyone races to find their soulmate, desperate to run to the finish line. But a relationship—marriage or otherwise—isn't supposed to be the destination; it's actually the journey. It will be filled with hardships and you might want to throw in the towel, but if you truly work hard to cherish each other, you can spend the rest of your lives together—and isn't that better than happy endings? 

11. Some things are just better left unsaid

All my life I've been a huge believer of honesty. I've always been determined to say what's on my mind and be truthful in my words. However, somewhere along the line I realised that sometimes honesty is relative—and it may hurt people. For instance, when we're feeling upset and our mind is practically being steered by our emotions, it may not be wise to spew all our poisonous thoughts onto our loved ones, though it may be the truth at the time. For another, it may also be unwise to bring up an old conflict, though it may be digging at the back of our minds for a while. Although I still try to speak the truth when I can, some things are better left alone.

12. Change is constant, do not fight it!

One of human beings' biggest pet peeves or phobia is change, which is strange since change happens all the time. If there is something that's constant, it is change—that may be an oxymoron, but it's true. Whenever there is a new law being passed down or a new phase of life about to start or even one of favourite shows coming to an end, we almost always fight the notion. We're afraid, because change is unfamiliar and who knows what will happen next. But, as time passes, we realise that we can live with the change and it's really not as damaging as we'd originally thought. It is what makes the world go round and—guess what—it happens mostly unnoticed.

13. Some wounds take a long time to heal (and some never heal at all)

Losing my mother was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I thought, by the time I graduated from high school, I was already getting over the pain and her absence. But then I moved to Germany and somehow got easily triggered to cry about her all the time. It took me around seven years before I could think about her without breaking down so easily...but that's only because a new, gigantic wound opened up in its stead. But that wound has also started to heal now, while the previous still pokes at me at times. I think some wounds just will never close up completely and some others will leave a scar, but somehow we'll find a way to live with that.

14. Fear lets you know you're on to something big

Before starting school/work, before going out on an adventure, before moving out of your parents' house, fear usually sets in. And, when it does, it is not unusual that we will rethink our decision and may even back out of whatever it is we are facing. But we shouldn't. Fear doesn't come when you're doing something ordinary. It doesn't come when you're about to take a shower, it doesn't come when you're about to do the laundry and it doesn't come when you're about to dig into your food. It comes when you're about to do something extraordinary, so don't worry. Fear lets you know you're about to take one step you've never taken before, and it may bring you closer to your dreams.

15. Strangers always have wisdom to share

I love talking to strangers! It may seem dangerous, but I've had some experiences with strangers that always bestow new knowledge onto me—especially when the strangers are significantly older. The thing about strangers is that they're not from our circle of friendships—may even be from a completely different world from ours—and so when they speak about a topic, they offer an entirely new and fresh outlook on it from what we are accustomed to with our peers. I like listening to them talk and exchanging ideas, because I always learn something new, even though we may later on never see each other again.

16. The grass is always greener on the other side no matter where we stand

I think it's human nature to believe that someone else has it better than us. But then, from their point-of-view, it may seem that our life is more put together and dreamy. These may then result in envy and dissatisfaction with our own lives. I read a poem once about this, that maybe the grass is greener because the gardener tends to other people's needs and not their own, that maybe if we were in their shoes, we'd know how much they actually suffer. The thing is, no matter where we are, we will always look at someone else's lawn and think that their grass is greener—shouldn't we feel grateful that we have grass at all?

17. Other people's lives are none of your business (unless they want it to be)

Around the time of my early 20s, I notice, I was a busybody—always meddling in everyone else's lives and telling them how to live them. If someone led a life of different principles from mine, I downright hated them and actively disapproved of their decisions. I think this was also the period that I lost friends the most. After losing a significant few, I started to realise how big of a bitch I used to be—Timehop helps a lot! Now I know, just because someone has a different view of life from mine, it doesn't meant their way is wrong. And, unless I'm their mother or their lives are in danger or they asked for help or some such, it is no business of mine how they live it.

18. Kindness goes a long way (even if you're not born with it)

I've never been a kind-hearted person. When I do something, it's because I want to do it or feel it is what's best for me—in other words, I'm selfish. Rarely do I think about other people's well-being or happiness, unless it is in any way beneficial to me. This leads me to believe that I am incapable of kindness. However, after reading Dale Carnegie's book, I learnt little things I can do to be kind to people and make them feel special. I tried applying them in my life. In an instant, I could see that people respond well to kindness—and not just mine too. It has opened a lot of doors for me and left me feeling loved.

19. Life never works out according to plan

No matter how straight-edged you are, how well you've mapped out your life, how hard you work at it, more often than not life will throw you a curveball. Sure, it may be a tiny one, like a bus coming later than you'd hoped for. It could also be a huge one, like you not finishing school as soon as you thought you ought to. But they are sure to happen. The best plan you can have for life, really, is to be open to sudden changes, because that's the only thing that's certain.

20. Time that changes you is never wasted

Now, because of the reason stated above, you may have faced failure at one time or another. And, thus, you may have felt like you've wasted your life away somehow. You may wish to turn back time, so you could change things and succeed instead. But, if you've never gone through what you did, you would've never reached this point in your life, become the person you are now and learnt the things you know now. So don't worry, the time that you spent beforehand, even if it led to your failure, it shapes you in a way you would've never suspected—and it will lead you to where you need to be. 

21. Age is but a number

It could mean a good thing or a bad thing—and I've experienced both. I've met and known people in life who have such a mature frame of mind at such a young age. In contrary, I've also met and known people in life who, despite their advanced age, aren't any less spoiled and irresponsible than a child. On the other hand, it also means that even if you've reached a certain age and haven't accomplished what society expects you to, it shouldn't matter, because you may have learnt a lot of things in between. Karlie Kloss once said in her video, "We all age at the same pace," so the number on our IDs literally only mean how long we've been on earth.

22. No one will ever understand you better than yourself

I used to believe that one's best friends/family/lover should know one more than anyone else, maybe even better than oneself. But that is too heavy an expectation to hang on someone's shoulders. We all grow up separately, so there are definitely parts of our personalities and history that no one else might know about. It is unfair for us to expect someone else will know our every thought and move, when we, who are obviously with ourselves literally all the time, don't even understand ourselves sometimes.

23. You will never know someone 100%, so tread with caution

Relationship therapist Esther Perel once said in her TED Talk, that we will never know someone 100% and the mystery is exactly what keeps attracting us to them. As someone in a 7-year relationship, I can vouch for that. Although this may be a relief, it could also mean that, while we thought we knew someone so well, it turns out there are sides to them we didn't know about before—and our actions may save or kill our relations to them. It also means that, especially with public figures, we don't always get the whole picture and should always be considerate of their feelings. Phrasing our words differently could have a huge impact.

24. Nothing beats offline interaction

While I am very awkward and suck at meeting new people in real life, I can do plenty with the internet. That being said, I realise online interactions are very limiting. Through the internet, we mostly resort to text-based interactions and, although emojis and stickers have tried to help convey our feelings better, they are certainly leagues behind direct communication. Offline interactions provide us with more information than we realise—not only verbal words, but also gestures, mimics (including micro expressions) and intonation. Text-based interactions are, unfortunately, easily misunderstood—which has happened to me too many times, even with someone who understands me as well as Firu and my sister. Plus, we edit a lot from our actual personality to create our online persona, whether we realise it or not, and—I don't know about you—but it makes people seem less human and relatable. I always find I like people better when we meet up in real life.

25. There are things in this world that we may never know/understand

Generally speaking, of course there are things we won't ever understand—like how the universe started, how many species there are on earth or why people must die. But I'm not really speaking about those divine secrets, exactly. On a personal level, there may also be things we will never know or understand. For starters, we may never know/understand why our friends suddenly end their ties with us, without so much as a notice. Or why we aren't accepted to a school or job that we desperately want. And there may never be any explanations with these mysteries. It may not be easy and it will take some time, but it is best if we try not dwell on them too much. One day, we'll be able to let them go and live knowing we don't know.

If you've read this far, as always, you're my hero!

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Sunday, 5 November 2017

Too Close for Comfort

 PGP Cafe

A couple months ago, when I had a little reunion meet-up with an old friend, I discovered this small yet homely café not too far away from where I live—by Jakarta standards, anyway. It was also quite secluded and devoid of people that I thought, I'd definitely like to come back here and take some photos for the blog. So I decided to go back on my own last Thursday, since it was my day off. My original plan was to catch up on work, while taking some outfit photos of myself. But it turns out taking photos by yourself is a lot of work on its own, and there was virtually no work to catch up on anyway. Like the last time I visited, I ordered Spaghetti Carbonara, Truffle Fries—which were heavenly!—and Iced Lemon Tea—easy on the ice, as per usual—all of which I thoroughly savoured. The waiters were all very friendly—without crossing the line to being nosy, which is perfect—and didn't even bat an eyelash when I started propping my camera here and there, for the sake of this post. It was yet again quite devoid of people, though, so I made myself at home, probably crossing over to the inappropriate (lol). I'm blaming the harem pants, really.

Thrifted top // gifted batik jacket + harem pants // hand-me-down sandals

Today I thought I'd opt for a casual-but-put-together look. I've been practically living in these harem pants, especially on campus, and it's just the perfect colour for me—as you might notice from my love for orange. The jacket is a bit of an afterthought, as it has quite a casual feel, but with a touch of formality that often comes with outerwear—plus, I just adore batik. Although it's currently rainy season, I decided to don a pair of sandals this time, since I thought I wouldn't be walking much anyway—just to and from the camera and toilet, actually—as I took bike taxis to and from the café. Thankfully, it didn't rain at all on the way, so they both stayed dry indoors. Also, now that I'm seeing the elements to this outfit one more time, I realise that most of these items were given to me by my family. The harem pants were a souvenir from my Stepmom from Bali—I think they were handmade by some local artisans, although I'm unsure about the dye they use. The batik jacket was given to me by my Grandmother 5 years ago, when I came home from Germany the first time and the sandals were hand-me-downs from her too last year. They were all items of comfort, both in function and in sentiments.

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Thursday, 2 November 2017

October in Overview

Trying to understand an artwork be like

To me, October is usually my birthday month, but also the month of Halloween. And, unexpectedly, everything I've been reading, watching and listening to this month has seemed to be appropriate for this holiday. How 'bout that? Maybe it has something to do with my inktober theme this year—you can see for yourself down below. I spend a lot of time with my best friends this month, which is always a wonderful time spent. My birthday also didn't suck as much as I feel it usually does—I think I should start accepting that my birthday is basically any other day and it's best I treat it that way, or maybe I should really just cry in the bathroom for a while and move on. Aside from inktober, I also visited two artsy events this month—one sketching club, which was a lot of fun, and one typography exhibition, filled mostly with people I know online. Lastly, I've been very active on the illustrations front this month—especially on my art instagram—and the feedback/responses I got from some of you make me feel very loved. So thank you!

Currently Reading

This month's books are quite appropriate with the Halloween theme, if I say so myself. Starting with finishing two more German books: Der Erdbeerpflücker and Der Scherbensammler, both by Monika Feth. They were quite light thriller—if such a thing exists at all—and I was quite intrigued all the way. I'm not sure if it were the length of each book itself or the fact that they're in German—which I'm not entirely used to reading in—that took me twice as long to finish than most other books. Hence, my not being able to read more books this month. Afterwards, I kicked off straight away with my 25 Before 26 list and went straight for the first Harry Potter book, which I'd never read before. The impression is still thick with the film's own, though, as there wasn't that much difference, I believe. I was going to continue on with the second book too, but my sister left it at the school she works in—and I'm the kind of person who can't be content without a book in my hands for more than 12 hours—so I grabbed A Tale for the Time Being by Ruth Ozeki, which has been on my to-read list for years. Add me on Goodreads, if you want to find out how I feel about it later.

Currently Watching

To get myself in the mood for Halloween (and inktober), I decided to continue watching Kyoukai no Rinne (境界のRINNE). However, the plan backfired as, instead of getting in the intended mood, I ended up being in the mood for Rumiko Takahashi in general. After Rinne, I restrained myself well enough to go for Urusei Yatsure (うる星やつら) before I finally gave in and watched an entire series of Ranma 1/2—my all-time favourite and one true love. Within around 2-3 weeks, I managed to watch all 161 episodes plus the first movie. That's how much I love Ranma, like seriously. Can't say I didn't get the warm and fuzzies throughout the entire series. Afterwards, to kind of relax a bit, after a quite intense emotional Ranma—because, to me, it's quite nostalgic and energetic—I watched New Game!!, which is quite chill and cute in comparison. Aside from anime, I've also watched A Monster Calls a couple times and really didn't expect the emotions that come with it. Absolutely brilliant and perfect for Halloween!

Currently Listening

As usual, when I need some new artists to discover, I go straight to Noisetrade and this time was no exception. Like magic, I discovered Haunted like Humans, who just released their debut album "Ghost Stories" recently and it is good! I love that it's the month of Halloween and I discovered an awesome indie artist—who actually created their album through Kickstarter—with a haunting name and an even more haunting album. I literally just downloaded the album one minute and instantly hooked, unbelievable! The first track "First Light" is incredibly peaceful, reminding me of the mountains and cabins, while "The Mammoth Song" is quite upbeat—although still with the woodsy feel—and contagious. My absolute favourite, though, I must say is "Benjamin," which feels so much like an afterthought in the wake of a failed relationship—in case you hadn't noticed, I love this kind of notions. It just contains so many quotable lines that I've even posted on twitter—which they retweeted! Give it a listen and support them, won't you?

Highlight of the Month

Kicking off the month with inktober, of course // celebrating National Batik Day with this look // tea party with les best friends // tea workshop at the campus // turning quarter life! // joined Saturday Sketch Club and did this doodle // took damage on this campus book sale // favourite inktober from this year's batch // Halloween bash with Uli

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